People think different ways of proposing. While one of them wants to be romantic, the other can try to catch a casual moment to pop the question. Mostly, guys are expected to come with the proposal. It’s almost the same in every culture. One other thing that is universal is the diamond ring which comes with the proposal.With no reason, every girl dreams of a diamond ring when marriage idea appears. Sometimes they don’t need to hear any word from the guys. Seeing the ring is enough to understand him which makes the ring a medium between the girl and the guy. Guys show that they are serious in their relationship and want to spend their entire life with those girls by spending both their effort and money while choosing that one ring.
How did this diamond ring idea come up in the first place? How did it become a tradition? It probably started like all other fashionable things. A guy who proposed his girlfriend did this romantic favor and it was spread among the girl’s friends. Many girls wanted to have the same romantic gift; so every guy began to get a ring first to give the girl while proposing.
I personally think that even though it really has a great view, diamond rings are bought mostly to show the community the engagement. Even though guys use it to ask their question, it is a strong medium between girls also. Girls prove that they have a male figure in their life and that guy is serious enough to give her a ring. It’s size, shape and karat matter only to girls. If it would be a medium used by guys only, nobody would care about how many karat a ring is. At this point another question becomes visible: Diamond ring is a stronger medium between whom? Guys and girls or girls and girls? I think the advertisements with a ring on a woman’s hand give the answer J
"Diamond ring is a stronger medium between whom? Guys and girls or girls and girls? I think the advertisements with a ring on a woman’s hand give the answer"
ReplyDeleteVery interesting questions you raised here. A French psychoanalyst Jacques Lacan says, a sexual relationship is always composed of 3 people: the couple plus the Other. The other's presence lets the couple to look at themselves from the eyes' of the Other, which validates the relationship. No wonder when a diamond becomes a status symbol, it's a message to the 3rd person--the Other--in the the relathionship.
The first few papragraphs of account is however a bit dry. Don't just limit yourself to the discussion of the general, anonymous 'guys' 'girls', to make this post more interesting, you should focus more on the cultural specificity of diamonds--diamond as an expression of love is only in the Western society, how is love expressed differently in other cultures? Also, how does advertising (especially the debeers' commercial 'diamond is forever') shope diamonds' role in our culture?
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